An increasing amount of men suffer from Premature Ejaculation. This condition is also referred to as “PE”. PE can be an annoying thing to live with, because it means that guys are not able to please their women during intercourse.
Look at the following statistics:
Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction. Estimates of its prevalence vary because different definitions of premature ejaculation are often used.
The prevalence of lifelong and acquired premature ejaculation as defined by an intravaginal ejaculation latency time of less than two minutes is thought to be quite low (2–5%), but a much greater proportion of men (typically 20–30%) complain of premature ejaculation disorders in epidemiological studies. For example 23.8% of Australian men reported that they “came to orgasm too quickly” in the National Sex in Australia survey.
Also, a study by the University of Milan, Italy, states the following:
The results indicated a 28.3% prevalence of PE based upon theself-report of the study participants. This figure is very much in line with the results of the Global Study of Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors (GSSAB), which has surveyed the attitudes, beliefs, and over- all health of people in sexual relationships from 29 countries.
When a man suffers PE, it takes such a short amount of time to arrive to ejaculation, that by the time he is done, his woman is only getting started.
When this happens, it creates frustration in him, and in his sex partner.
Causes of PE
Researchers believe that the causes of PE are manyfold, and a combination of psychological, biological reasons:
- Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences may establish a pattern that can be difficult to change later in life, such as:
- Situations in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered
- Guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters
Other factors that can play a role in causing premature ejaculation include:
- Erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate, which can be difficult to change.
- Anxiety. Many men with premature ejaculation also have problems with anxiety — either specifically about sexual performance or related to other issues.
- Relationship problems. If you have had satisfying sexual relationships with other partners in which premature ejaculation happened infrequently or not at all, it’s likely that interpersonal issues between you and your current partner are contributing to the problem.
A number of biological factors may contribute to premature ejaculation, including:
- Abnormal hormone levels
- Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters
- Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system
- Certain thyroid problems
- Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
- Inherited traits
Rarely, premature ejaculation is caused by:
- Nervous system damage resulting from surgery or trauma
- Withdrawal from certain medications used to treat mental health problems
PE and the Frustrations For Him
For the guy, PE is an incredibly frustrating thing, because he knows that he is not pleasing his partner. Part of being a man, is wanting to please and satisfy a woman, in a sexual way. When he comes so fast, there is no way that the woman will reach climax.
After a few attempts, she becomes increasingly disinterested in sex (who can blame her?) and sex becomes very infrequent. At this stage, most guys will immerse themselves in porn, and satisfy their sexual needs via the internet.
Porn only makes the matters worse, for several reasons that we will discuss in another post.
So basically, we are in a negative feedback loop here. Is there a way out? Sure there is. We will look at many options available for guys who suffer PE and want to improve their sexual life.
PE and the Frustrations For Her
It takes a woman 10 to 15 minutes of uninterrupted sexual stimulation to reach climax. So how can she possibly get anywhere near orgasm when her guy ejaculates after a couple of minutes of being inside of her?
Well, she doesn’t.
And after a while, sex is no fun for her. There’s nothing to be gained from sex other than satisfying the needs of her man. So she still does it every now and then, but it feels more like an obligation.
So how do you stop from prematurely ejaculating? There are many ways that guys with PE can improve their situation.
The Squeeze Technique
The squeeze technique consists on using your hand to squeeze your penis right underneath the head of your penis. This pushes blood away from the penis, decreasing excitation and arousal, and allowing you to last longer.
The Squeeze Technique to do away with premature ejaculation should commence with stimulation outside the vagina or anus. This can mean oral or digital stimulation of the penis. Have your lover engage in this activity until you feel that familiar sensation that tells you ejaculation is nigh. (That means close.) Once that sensation begins, have your lover squeeze your penis by grasping it with the hand located beneath the glans. Place the thumb on that part of the bottom of your penis at the spot where the shaft says howdy-do to the head. The index finger should be on the top of the penis at roughly the same spot as your thumb. You lover’s other fingers should just roll around the shaft of your penis. Near the point of eruption, you should become the recipient of firm pressure for about 20 seconds. Make sure that your lover does not move the fingers as this could bring on the premature ejaculation.
Stop Your Ejaculation
Use your 3 middle fingers to stop the flow of your semen coming up through your urethra, right at the moment of the ejaculation. Place the middle finger exactly where the urethra is, in your perineum, right between your anus and your testicles. With the other 2 fingers, place them at each side of the middle fingers. Push inwards; this will stop your ejaculation.
If you do this, you won’t have to wait as long to have another erection as if you’ve had a complete ejaculation.
In fact, if the level of arousal is high, and depending on your testosterone levels and your overall age, you may be able to continue having sex without losing your erection at all.
This technique doesn’t really prevent the PE, but makes it a non-issue, because after this initial controlled ejaculation, you’ll last a lot longer. If you feel like you’ll have to ejaculate again, you can repeat the same technique, and keep on going.
You can do this for a long time!
Treat PE with Natural Supplements
There is evidence to suggest that 5-HTP, combined with other natural supplements, can help to beat your PE. I will soon be writing a lot more on this topic. So stay tuned.
How to Last Longer in Bed with Specific Sex Positions
Forget all the porn you’ve ever watched. That’s not how sex is supposed to be. In fact, real sex might make for boring porn.
Here’s why: girls reach climax through the excitation of their clitoris. A girl’s clit is like a guy’s penis head. It’s the most sensible part of her sexual organs, and the one that produces an orgasm.
So forget acrobatics and porn, and try this: it will make her come, and it will make you last longer.
Instead of thrusting in and out like crazy, get in… Stay in, and then do small, shallow thrusts, but more importantly, use your pelvic bone to squash her clitoris.
If she is on top, don’t lie down. Sit up (you can use a pillow in your back if you don’t have super human abs) and let her ride you like a cowgirls. Make sure she moves forwards and back, instead of up and down.
This way she’ll get her orgasm, and you’ll last longer. Win-win.
More on sex positions to last longer:
So now you have her begging for you to stick it in. Remember to have that self-confidence at an all time high. Believe in yourself. While the positions below work for us, the speed you do them at are key. If you screw like a jackhammer (fast), you may wanna slow it down here and there and vice versa. Learn to switch it up speed-wise and also learn the correct timing on switching positions. If you feel like you’re about to ejaculate, slowly pull out and leave it out until that feeling goes out. Kiss and touch her while you’re doing this to keep her going. If you need to go back a step and do a little more oral to let your little guy simmer down, then do so.
This video we found is also pretty informational:
If you are in a long-term relationship, you may benefit from having couples therapy. The purpose of couples therapy is two-fold.
Firstly, couples are encouraged to explore issues that may be affecting their relationship, and given advice about how to resolve them.
Secondly, couples are shown techniques that can help the man to ‘unlearn’ the habit of premature ejaculation. The two most popular techniques are the ‘squeeze technique’ and the ‘stop-go technique’.
In the squeeze technique, the woman begins masturbating the man. When the man feels that he is almost at the point of ejaculation, he signals to the woman. The woman stops masturbating him, and squeezes the head of his penis for between 10 to 20 seconds. She then lets go and waits for another 30 seconds before resuming masturbation. This process is carried out several times before ejaculation is allowed to occur.
The stop-go technique is similar to the squeeze technique except that the woman does not squeeze the penis. Once the man feels more confident about delaying ejaculation, the couple can begin to have sexual intercourse, stopping and starting as required.
These techniques may sound simple, but they do require a lot of practice
I didn’t want to leave out these videos, because they are pretty amazing for those of you with enough time to watch and learn.
Conclusions on Premature Ejaculation and Next Steps for Guys Who Want to Get Rid of It
PE is very frustration and can be relationship crippling.
If you are one in three guys that suffer from it, do something about it. You gain nothing by hiding from the truth.
How do you know if you suffer from PE? Well, if you NEVER last longer than a couple of minutes, and if you ALWAYS leave your girlfriend or wife frustratingly wishing for more… it means that you have PE. So do something about it!
What to do?
Don’t panic. Anxiety only makes it worse. Try the sex positions I recommend, try the supplements I recommend, try the squeeze technique, try the ejaculation control trick.
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There is literally thousands of things more to say about this topic, and it’s very hard to put it all together in one single article, so for those of you who want to research this topic further, I selected a few of the best places you can go.
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